December. It’s a hard time for folks walking on wires to please others. It’s a hard time for folks finishing semesters when running on fumes. It’s a hard time for folks grieving family hurts or losses. It’s a hard time for processing what comes up in contemplative moments and social interactions alike. This December is especially hard because it punctuates a year of great injustice, dehumanization, and the increasing visibility of wrongdoings. Now, as so many of us ... Read more ...
Everyday Feminism
Feminism is not only an orientation toward the world but also a way of living aligned with the values of justice, equity, and anti-sexism. As a white woman, I explore internalized sexism and its relationship with white supremacy and other forms of oppression.
Revealing the Cultural Patterns of Rape Culture
It’s been a few weeks since the #metoo hashtag prompted discussion about the widespread and systemic nature of sexual violence. As I’ve shared stories and listened to others’, I’ve been struck by frequent questioning: “Does ______ really count as sexual harassment or assault?” And that question has led me to consider the many moments of sexual intimidation that aren’t harassment or assault per se, but constitute violence and are part of rape culture nonetheless. Here ... Read more ...
Speaking Up by Speaking Aloud Embodied Responses
Several times in recent weeks I’ve found myself in conversations in which things were going wrong. White folks were talking over folks of color. Men were taking up far too much space. White, cis-gender, able-bodied women were sharing their experiences as though they were universal truths. In each of these occasions, I found my stomach churning, my heart hurting, my chest tight, and my mouth dry. And in each of these occasions, I found myself entering conversation simply ... Read more ...
Me Too: Standing Against Sexual Violence
I didn’t learn to drive in drivers ed. In fact, I never drove the car that whole semester because the teacher was a creep. When girls would drive, he’d start off complimenting perfume or jewelry or clothing. Then he’d lean into the driver to observe them better (the perfume or jewelry or clothing). From there, he’d put his hand on the girl’s leg, sometimes leaving it there and sometimes moving it higher along the thigh. All of this with two additional students in the ... Read more ...
Reclaiming Childhood Power with Coloring Books
There’s a story that I’ve told for years, a story that represents my early disappointment and dislike of school. In kindergarten, I was assigned to color a bird brown, but I thought brown was too typical. I’d been reading Zoo Books and learning about parakeets, toucans, and other birds at home. I knew birds could be practically any color or any combination of colors. I decided, therefore, to use my creativity, knowledge, and the tools (crayons) available to me to create ... Read more ...
What I’ve Learned in the Week Since Charlottesville: Five Lessons for White Folks Who Care about Racism and Racial Justice
This week has been INTENSE. As a writer, educator, and person committed to racial justice and the work of healing internalized white supremacy, I’ve been following and affected by the dysfunction, injury, and trauma on display. I’ve been confronting my own shadow, while watching collective shadows in the United States come into light. And these shadows ask us to reckon with legacies of colonialism and slavery, institutionalized racism, and deep dehumanization. These ... Read more ...
Sieving Life: Keeping What Nourishes and Releasing the Rest
In the past week, I moved—just three blocks away, still in Milwaukee and still downtown. Yet, the move feels significant for the opportunity to reassess, re-arrange, and re-imagine. The physical move has allowed for downsizing, letting go of possessions, and deciding what to keep. And why. This physical sorting has also invited filtering of my past, as I’m posing questions like: Which narratives about myself, my life, my communities, and my commitments are still ... Read more ...
Why I’m Vegan: Ecofeminism
I’ve been holding myself up, preventing myself from writing about why I’m vegan and how central food is to my understanding of justice. I’ve been holding myself up because this writing feels especially important, like it needs to be good, and, therefore, is triggering my need to counter perfectionism. I’ve also been holding myself up because it’s so damn hard to write about being vegan without re-inscribing notions of whiteness and privilege. Especially from my ... Read more ...
Choosing to Tread Another Path
I’ve been spending a lot of time recently on paths. Established hiking trails and sidewalks, escalators and even rock crawls marked by arrows. And I’ve been especially appreciative for the healing that comes from this time walking—not only hiking, but standing, marching, experiencing the mobility associated with movement, strengthening and using my body, contemplating my embodied existence, and examining the various privileges and positionings associated with this ... Read more ...
Appreciating Rahawa Haile’s “Going It Alone” for the Hiking-Justice Connection
As someone interested in and impacted by the outdoors, hiking, human connection, harmful historical legacies, and ever-present white supremacy, I absolutely love and highly recommend Rahawa Haile’s article “Going It Alone”: Haile shares her experience through-hiking the Appalachian Trail as a queer black woman. Here are a few of my favorite lines: “By the time I made it through Maryland, it was hard not to think of the Appalachian Trail as a 2,190-mile trek ... Read more ...
![Heading into #MLKDay2019, here’s a reminder that niceness won’t lead to racial justice: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2019/jan/16/racial-inequality-niceness-white-people
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From the article by Robin DiAngelo, speaking to white folks: “We can begin by acknowledging ourselves as racial beings with a particular and limited perspective on race. We can attempt to understand the racial realities of people of color through authentic interaction rather than through the media or through unequal relationships ... [Cont.] These efforts require that we continually challenge our own socialization and investments in racism and put what we profess to value into the actual practice of our lives. This takes courage, and niceness without strategic and intentional anti-racist action is not courageous.”
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If you’d like to pursue more courageous and contemplative action, consider joining the 40-day practice I’ll be offering during Lent (beginning March 6th): “Strengthening Emotional Literacies to Counter White Fragility.” I’ll be sharing more information about this e-course soon. For now, if you’d like to know more, feel free to contact with your interest or with questions about the course.
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#mlkweekend #committedtojustice #racialjustice #socialjustice #whitefragility #whitesupremacy #whiteness #bias #emotionalliteracy #courage #love #unlearning #unlearningracism #antiracism #antioppression #feminism #ecourse #community #communitylearning #communityeducation #bloggersofinstagram #notnice #realrelationships #conversation #action #activism](http://scontent-lga3-1.cdninstagram.com/vp/bf389ae911a0451e72c7605cef72b359/5CC4401A/t51.2885-15/e35/c0.6.516.516/49998212_2210762159004274_3044998623218524569_n.jpg?_nc_ht=scontent-lga3-1.cdninstagram.com "Heading into #MLKDay2019, here’s a reminder that niceness won’t lead to racial justice: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2019/jan/16/racial-inequality-niceness-white-people
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From the article by Robin DiAngelo, speaking to white folks: “We can begin by acknowledging ourselves as racial beings with a particular and limited perspective on race. We can attempt to understand the racial realities of people of color through authentic interaction rather than through the media or through unequal relationships ... [Cont.] These efforts require that we continually challenge our own socialization and investments in racism and put what we profess to value into the actual practice of our lives. This takes courage, and niceness without strategic and intentional anti-racist action is not courageous.”
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If you’d like to pursue more courageous and contemplative action, consider joining the 40-day practice I’ll be offering during Lent (beginning March 6th): “Strengthening Emotional Literacies to Counter White Fragility.” I’ll be sharing more information about this e-course soon. For now, if you’d like to know more, feel free to contact with your interest or with questions about the course.
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